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I'm Megan Bennett, I'm Leslie Meyer and this is Gen X.
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Women Are Sick of this Shit.
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Hi Leslie, Hi Megan, how are you?
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I am fabulous.
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That question just gets more loaded every time we have one of these podcasts.
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I know like what am I supposed to say?
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I don't know the real answer, the real answer, but functionally in this moment, other than being a little sleepy, I'm good.
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It's Sunday morning.
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It is Sunday morning.
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This is a fun Sunday morning.
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I'm glad I get to spend it with you.
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Oh you gave me all the warm fuzzies.
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It's true, I'm glad you're spending it with me too, and I know you're giving up a lot right now.
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I have a puppy.
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Because you have a special friend at your house.
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I do.
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I got a puppy yesterday.
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I feel really special.
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It's my emotional support puppy.
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What is your puppy called?
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My puppy's name is Olive Olive.
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She's sweet.
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She's nine weeks old.
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She slept very well last night and I didn't, but that's okay.
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I was just waiting.
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I was like she's going to get up any second.
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Oh the old mom hypervigilance kicks right back in.
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It's like having a baby.
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Just flips and you're like what's wrong?
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Any second she's going to wake up, oh my.
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God.
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Yeah, I think that's half the reason that we want our kids to move out eventually is that we can sort of pretend they don't exist anymore, Like in the kindest, most loving way.
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But that switch is incredibly difficult to turn off internally.
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It's really hard.
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Once there's another living being dependent upon your existence, you do have, at least for me, with mine out of the house.
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Now there's still sometimes those moments where I'm like I wonder did she make it home?
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Okay, you know, and then I'll hop on my phone and make sure that she's always supposed to be but sure but once I know she's either at her boyfriend's house or her place, I'm fine, I can sleep, yep.
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And then I got a puppy and then you got a puppy yep, so got up sunday morning, came over, saw you and half my pajamas you look great.
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Thanks, so do you you look great for a new mom.
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Oh thanks.
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Did you ever get some of those like bizarro backhanded compliments?
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You look great for a new mom, oh you just gave birth.
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Oh you look amazing your hair looks great there's somebody who just rolled out of bed.
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When was the last time?
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you showered.
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I'm like shower Shower.
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We don't do that shit as an infant.
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We don't bathe anymore.
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How do I leave it alone long enough?
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to go into the shower.
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No, you don't, you don't, you don't you don't Okay.
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we have a point today.
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We are doing an after-school special.
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I mean in as much as we ever have a point with our.
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We get to make up the rules so we can do anything we want.
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These are our rules.
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Our show that is hyper-specific to our own experience.
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Yes, so this one is a little bit less structured than the others.
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Yes, which is funny, it's an after-school special, that's right.
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And we're going to be talking about I'm going to put the show notes up at the front here we're going to talk about two, maybe two things.
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Definitely one thing breakfast cereals breakfast cereal because I just ate breakfast before we got started, and then we also talked about book fairs.
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Yeah, so let's go last we might get there we might get there.
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If not, we'll tack it onto the back end of something else.
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For sure, and then we have just some life update stuff.
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So let's start there.
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You want to talk about the life update stuff?
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Last episode last, when last we met, I was having a little bit of a medical issue some postmenopausal bleeding and so called right away and got all the appointments.
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We have a miraculous same day women's clinic on the north side of Indianapolis and they were able to get me in in like three days and I went for an ultrasound.
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All of the people who assisted me every step of the way were wonderful.
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Nobody was stressed about anything.
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So I did my ultrasound and went and sat down for like two minutes and then met with the doctor, nurse, nurse practitioner.
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But the new step up, probably that one.
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We're going to say that.
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I was going to get there at some point.
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Thank you, I appreciate that that and we had a quick conversation and whenever, just like the findings of the ultrasound, uh, we went ahead and did a biopsy that day, which was unexpected.
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So just in terms of like what you might run into while you hit, your mic this happens.
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Yeah, um, oh.
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And my ultrasound in my brain.
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I was imagining a pregnancy ultrasound yeah, you know, like, yeah, like on your belly transvaginal baby up in there and I was like oh all right, okay, I'm gonna make out with this for a while, I guess, uh, hey, a little to the right just in terms of and like, not comfortable, right, because you're like trying to get at specific parts.
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Right, I'm gesturing.
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You're just jamming it in there Doing other things, so it's a lot of like.
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Did they have you in stirrups?
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You were in stirrups too, like the whole thing, oh yeah, lovely.
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So I mean great.
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Yeah, I'm glad it's.
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You're trying to get views of like both of your ovaries and your uterus.
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Sure, Things look different after the menopause.
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Everything shrinks a little bit In case you didn't know.
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We've got a whole episode we do.
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Clitoris just fine, in perfect shape.
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That's not what I was there for, but I know that we're hanging in Excellent, excellent, so got all that done.
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The bean Was not necessarily expecting the biopsy that day, but it was sort of like.
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I could make another appointment and come back, which seemed dumb, described that really well.
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It is, you know, like pop a little like thin thread up through your cervix, not comfy.
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And they're taking a little tissue sample, also not comfy, but knocked all that out and I think it was.
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That was on a Friday, so I probably got the results back like it was Wednesday or Thursday, so pretty quick.
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Yeah, everything's fine.
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That's awesome.
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Everything was benign which is great.
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I know you were, I know.
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Well, we were all worried and it's, you know, it's 6%, right.
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Like with all the like information that I did have, I was down to like 6% or less, right, you know, and some might have even said like 1% to 2% chance, but your brain fixates on the 6%, 6% seems like a lot of percent when you're dealing with that absolutely and from our generation, like many of the vaccines that are available now for young people to prevent uterine cancer.
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We didn't have that the viruses associated with that uh didn't exist for us, I think they've raised the age now to like is it 40?
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I think so.
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So yeah, so had they done that a few years ago we would have been fine but now we're like, yeah, outside of the range, right, um for that, and just like there is a tiny.
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You know, I think my grandmother had a fairly large uterine tumor growth and in her older age, like in her late 70s, early to mid 80s, and she elected not to.
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You know they were pretty sure it was benign, but she's she wasn't.
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In her 80s she was like yeah, I don't want to mess with those lady exams and that kind of thing.
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Um, and she lived to be 93, so 99% sure it was not a cancerous thing, but we also didn't experience the negative consequences of that, if it was Right.
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So just you know, yeah.
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And then my mom died when she was really young.
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So also not a lot of medical history in terms of lady things, right?
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So you just kind of hang on to that and wait to get the news and your mind does all kinds of bad things and you go to bad places and I'm glad that that was all for not all for not, and we also have sort of like a baseline for what things look like right now should I be bleeding?
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Oh, that's really good.
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You know what I mean so they're like you have a comparative yeah, and you had just started well, not just started, but you had recently started hormone replacement therapy, so that, yeah, had something to do with it, right, like we think probably like bleeding outside of the first six months is considered unusual okay so I have been on it for six months.
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It's not unusual to have bleeding in that first six months, but what we think, based on the results and all of that, is just like my progesterone was a little bit too low.
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Okay, so we've upped that and, should I have any other issues, you are going to sleep like a baby too.
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Progesterone is lovely.
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So we're going to up that and then see how things go.
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Okay, good, there you go.
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Good PSA just go do the things, go do the.
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It's not that it's fun.
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Nobody wants to go do it.
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Nope, and I just paid my bill right, so it's money.
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Yeah, depending on your insurance coverage.
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But women's, we have to do these things.
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We've got to take care of ourselves.
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And if you don't have health insurance and you don't have a primary care physician right now, like, these are the life-saving services that Planned Parenthood can provide to you and you can get in there for an appointment for a very low fee.
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They offer lots of financial support, like they provide vital life-saving care for women.
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Yep, absolutely.
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So go there.
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My daughter actually went to play parenthood in new york and because she just birth control issues, she wanted to get an iud.
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She got that then then expelled that which apparently is like can happen um you know, I guess if it, if you have your first period and it comes shooting out, then you're probably not a great candidate for it.
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So now she's got, she went back to shooting out.
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That's a very good one, sorry, g.
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Thanks for the info.
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But she went back in and they gave her like we don't have it in Indiana as far as I know.
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But she said it's like a hair tie, like this little hair tie thing that just goes, pop it right up in there and it's like ninety, nine percent and what I know.
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I just like float around up in your space.
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See, we don't have it here, it's all magic we have like frontier medicine in indiana.
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So I don't know, at best right now, magic medicine and we're allowed to have.
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Yeah, so anyway, not dissing my medical care was amazing.
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Thank goodness for having all of the women that I had.
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Yeah and there.
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You know, there may or may not be some people who may or may not be actively advocating against women's health right now.
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Oh, there are oh there are, without naming names and using threats and intimidation against doctors who provide vital life-saving care, and lawsuits and all the things Yep, yep.
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So support those people who support women, and that's great.
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We do recommend also menopauseorg as a resource.
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If you are having any issues, you need a provider.
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You don't have a provider.
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There is a provider list on that website.
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Yes, there's so many, so many good resources.
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If you just have questions of like what the fuck is happening to my body, it is a really good resource, and I think there is a Canadian version yes, that's what I was and a European version.
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If you are questioning the validity or the accuracy of resources in the United States, which you should right now Sure yeah.
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Because information is getting removed from pages all the time, Although we have no reason to believe that menopauseorg has been affected in that way.
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There is the British Menopause Society and the National Health Service in the UK has a lot of information up there.
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Of course you're not going to be able to find providers through there, but they do have accurate information.
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They have the same thing in Canada.
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God bless the people in Canada who are quickly saving pages from the CDC as quickly as they are getting pulled down.
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So there are places where information is being saved.
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Yep, there's our activism for the day.
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I am so glad for you, though, and for me, because I'd be very sad without you, lady fucking suck, wouldn't it?
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it would, and then we would have to talk about do you know what?
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This podcast would be like with just me.
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You would be talking, awful, and then it would be like like like where I was gonna fill in, and then you would just sit and you'd be like hi, leslie, leslie pause, uh-huh, uh-huh and then at one point you would like be me, maybe you would like switch seats and you would like be going back and forth.
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This is a whole pinter play.
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I think we're writing right now.
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Who are you waiting?
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for, oh my god, I just give myself a marionette.
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It's a single person waiting for Godot, but you're like playing yourself and the voice in your brain, which is me.
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Rabbit holes, Rabbit holes.
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I'm telling you, I'm this close to crazy.
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I can carry on a full conversation with myself, but I'd rather not.
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Yeah, it's more fun this way.
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Yeah, I think so.
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It's more unexpected.
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You don't know what's going on in our mouths when we're together.
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Nope.
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Hey.
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Megan yes, ma'am who died this week, well, so Last-.
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No, it was this week.
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This week, last week, I am trying very hard to stay off of social media and out of the news, so I was surprised to learn that two days ago Mr George Foreman, the boxer, passed away.
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But we don't know him as a boxer.
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We don't really know him as a boxer.
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I mean, we knew he was a boxer, but we never saw him box.
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It wasn't like you know, he just wasn't our generation.
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No, yeah.
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When was George Foreman born?
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Watch box 49.
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1949.
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Yeah, so he was pretty much.
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I suspect he was probably 26 years older than my grandmother or younger than my grandmother, we would have been pretty young when George Foreman was out there beating people up, but us 90s college age kids know him for what Well, you tell me, because I will admit I never owned one, but I know that you skirted some rules.
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We did.
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This should go in the infomercial.
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Oh my gosh, yeah, in the world of infomercials.
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Being a college student in the very early 90s we had the invention of the foreman grill and there were.
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I'm looking at pictures right now.
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There were very many there were very many very many variations.
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It had just come out so it was like a really small.
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It could maybe hold two patties okay.
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So so we would use this thing right.
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Oh, does this say vintage, Vintage George Foreman grilling machine?
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This is exactly what I had in my dorm and it had this little plastic drip tray and you could cook a burger on it Now?
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Did they clean that before they put it up for sale?
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Yes I mean, but literally, this is what we're talking about, these things.
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That's what it looks like clean.
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That's it there you go they.
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so we would skirt many because you weren't allowed to have open flame or open cooking devices in your dorm.
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But we all know that sometimes you need some snacks, you need a burger.
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We had microwaves.
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We could do like mac and cheese.
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I had a panini machine.
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Those came out kind of at the same time when was I in college, 91.
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So we could make little girl cheese sandwiches or, upon occasion, burgers.
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I don't think it lasted longer than my freshman year because the reality was they were a fucking pain in the ass to clean I mean it looks like it would be.
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Yeah, these weird little forks that you had to like push the grease off of and you can't immerse it in water and like grease is going everywhere, like it's disgusting, um, but this is why did it make a good burger.
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Yeah, I mean, it just cooked things.
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You know, it's just like an electric grill, so you just close.
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It Could have been a waffle iron.
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You probably could have slapped a burger in there too, and it would have worked out okay.
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Oh, there you go, it would be the same.
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Just, yeah, just flip it over halfway through, but they were.
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I mean, I think the thing that we most remember about these really were the fucking infomercials I mean, he was cooking everything everything was cooked on a foreman grill.
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It's everything.
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Later they had, like they had stands.
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They were like you know you could, oh, like big girls, look at that.
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Oh, they're still on amazon you too get a george foreman, good lord grill-y grill Grill.
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So then one might wonder why you just don't fucking buy a grill Right At this point, because you love George?
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Foreman.
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You do.
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I'm getting myself a George.
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Well, and then I think there was this feeling, right or wrong?
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Producer Tim is showing us the schematics.
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I don't need to know any of this information.
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The George Foreman grill is 27 and a half inches by.
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How does this one work?
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I don't know why Wasn't there?
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like this feeling, though, that it was healthier.
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That was how it was sold.